Mark Twain was right when he said,
“Humanity has unquestionably one really effective weapon—laughter.”
And the day we took on this project - we were constantly being infected by the couple's happy vibes, especially that of Charles - to me, he is a laughing bear.......
I remembered that when Charles and Sarah approached me, they had a thought of having the most classic combinations of themes for their wedding.... a classic, Victorian and safe approach to present the flowers and the decor. Well... I gave a thumbs down to that and said no... No we were not going to take a safe, classic and unexciting direction.
Elton John was wrong when he sang that sorry seems to be the hardest word. Well, actually I think... nowadays the hardest word is, No.
That’s because saying no is so hard. Going against the grain in this complacent world is seriously difficult... especially to your clients. Nobody likes to let others down.
Even when we yearn to give the thumbs down, those around us can make it hard to do so. What’s more, the world is now full of "educated people" from the college of assertive training, who “refuse to take no for an answer.” But this is insane and foolishness... at times the smartest thing to do is to make no your answer.
In fact, I once heard of this dubious motto: “Say yes yes yes to everything, and then figure out later how to cram it all in.”
But, in Poppy, if we have the directives to create a more than "Legendary" set up for your events, we would say No to your less than common approach and help you produce that show-stopping moment. We live to create and to capture that passion of our clients' stories in the absolute best form!
Forwarding a smiling yes to everything and everyone may seem polite and obliging, but it can cause more cons in the long run. So many said yes and then failed to keep up. To me, one sure way to avoid that kind of rudeness is to be honest; to others and to yourself—and manage an upfront no graciously.
To be a yes-man to everything can strap you down where there’s never enough time to think, listen, dream, savor or connect with other people. That's certainly not how our creative thought process takes place... we hate to end up racing through the motion instead of living and be creative in it.
We hold true to our concepts and when we made the new directives to Charles and Sarah, we focus on the stuff that really matters. We, however, did not expect the lovely couple to indulge on our every whim to our interpretation of "legendary" in the initial proposal ... we are more than ready to hear no, because the more no there is, the sweeter yes sounds.
The bottom line to live a creative life is knowing when to say Yes and when to say No, to focus on what is essential and let the rest fall by naturally.
A great place to start is to stop, look at the big story and reflect on what really matters; creatively that is. Then you can trash out the parts that only seems essential.
The words from Warren Buffett: less yes is more:
“The difference between successful people and very successful people, is that very successful people say no to almost everything.”
I agreed to that - haha - well, the result produced when Charles weds Sarah proved true that our Legendary direction is right indeed.